In Julia Cameron’s book, The Artist’s Way (it’s an excellent book if you want to find your creativity), she writes about “crazymakers.” She states that, “Crazymakers are people who create storm centers. These people can be charismatic, charming, highly inventive, and powerfully persuasive. Long on problems, but short on solutions.” (page 44)
Crazymakers like drama, create chaos, lack responsibility, and are basically non-functional.
Because they can be so charming, it is difficult to see them for who they really are. They hide behind a veneer of sweetness and niceties, while manipulating you every step of the way. They are grounded in power and control and make you miserable every day of your life.
They destroy schedules and break deals. They are constantly running late and never do anything on time. They expect special treatment and discount your reality. They make you think you are inadequate and talk down to you in a myriad of ways. They waste your time and energy and drain you of life and health. Crazymakers are expert blamers, and hate schedules except for their own. They hate order, love chaos, and deny they are crazymakers.
A crazymaker is someone you choose yourself! WOW!
(excerpts from pages 46-49)
The Artist’s Way is about finding your creativity and removing blocks that are keeping you from achieving your highest potential; however, the crazymaker section spoke volumes to me.
Most families have at least one crazymaker. If we are lucky, we only have one!
We spend our lives accommodating their stupidity, lateness, irresponsibility, drama, chaos, foolishness, manipulation, game-playing, and crazymaking!
All of us need to ask ourselves, “Why are we putting up with this? Why do we keep playing their destructive games?”
For our own health and sanity, we need to make a decision to get these crazymaking people out of our lives. If they are part of your family, you can make a decision to not accommodate their behavior or participate or engage with their nonsense. If you haven’t read the Book Boundaries, you probably need to order one fast. This book will change your life and will teach you how to set tight boundaries, especially around crazymakers.
Draw the line in the sand and learn ways to either eliminate crazymakers from your life, or establish boundaries so they have no control over you.
Good luck dealing with crazymakers. They don’t easily go away. They prevent you from living your life to the fullest, block your creativity, and destroy your health.
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