I have chosen this topic because I have so many friends who deal with this issue. Some of the saddest situations I saw as a psychologist were older parents dealing with grown children who were nothing but takers. The parents gave their children everything they needed and more growing up, and then when the “babies” reached adulthood, their begging and demanding never ended.
I have one client who sent their “kid” to an expensive college and paid his way, and he was never grateful. Then, it was time to get married. So, he made another long list of demands, all the while complaining his parents were unfair and other ridiculous complaints. Based on what I knew about the story, none were true. This young man was one of the most arrogant, selfish, and ungrateful people I ever met.
Does this story sound familiar? You may have one of these in your family!
These grown children want you to pay for college, make a down payment on their first home, pay their debt, and their wedding, and the list goes on and on. THEN, they are still never grateful.
My question to you is, “Are you still putting up with this?” If so, it may be time to let them go and figure it out on their own and be done.
The sad thing is this happens more than you know. They falsely accuse, complain, and carry on until their “wonderful” parents have had enough of it. Sometimes saying, “Enough is enough!” I know several parents who have stopped listening to their nonsense and have no contact with them anymore, and in fact, cut them out of the will.
But you might say, “What about the grandchildren?” That’s the hardest issue of all. The truth might be they manipulated and controlled you about that as well. It’s tough to draw a line in the sand and say, “No more!” When you ever get to the other side, it is sweet relief.
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